KASIH SAYANG SEORANG UMI.........

Sepanjang hidup ini banyak dugaan yang kutempuhi untuk berada ditahap ini. Namun begitu, UMI merupakan orang yang banyak berkorban demi kami adik-beradik. Kesusahan sangat terasa sejak aku kecik lagi, aku masih ingat lagi semasa aku kecik, aku berumur antara 13 dan 14 aku telah belajar apa itu "PENGORBANAN" serta erti dalam kehidupan. Kenangan yang aku x kan lupa ialah semasa aku tahan taut untuk mendapatkan wang ringgit untuk kesekolah. Kesukaran dalam kehidupan membuatkan aku kuat dan tabah dalam mengharungi erti kehidupan yang berliku.

Ketabahan seorang insan yang bergelar UMI sangat bermakna bagi aku kerana tanpa umi mungkin kinI aku tak sampai ke tahap ini. Seorang insan yang bergelar UMI mengajar aku mengenal dunia serta memberikan aku semangat dikala aku tidak terya lagi dalam meneruskan perjuangan kehidupan yang berliku ini. Sungguh Kesusahan dalam kehidupan banyak mengajar aku untuk bertahan serta berjuang dalam kehidupan ini. ADAKAH AKU MAMPU MEMBALAS JASANYA? ini menjadi tanda tanya kepada diriku. Berbekalkan semangat UMI lah aku sampai disini. Kata-katanya kepada aku tak akan aku lupa sampai aku besar.
Setelah berhempas pulas dengan bermacam2 karenah serta masalah yang di hadapi kini aku amat bersyukur dengan apa yang telah aku kecapi . Walaubagaimanapun, aku kini belum sampai ke tahap apa yang aku ingan capai dalam kehidupan ini. Banyak lagi halangan dan cabaran yang aku perlu tempuhi.

PERASAAN YANG DIMAINKAN

Sedih gler lau cakap pasal perasaan yang dimainkan, macamnilah nasib aku sekarang ini. Aku cuba nak berbaik-baik tapi dye seolah-olah endah tak endah jer. Hati mana  tak sedih bro, orang yang kita harapkan selama ini susah sangat nak faham perasaan sayang dalam diri kita ini. Aduhai apalah silap aku sangat sampai sanggup dye ulangi lagi perkara yang sama.....Jawapannya mudah saja ..tertidur lor....sakit perut lor...dan macam-macam lagi.... Hurmmmm.... mungkin dah nasib badan aku kut jadi macamni....dye ini baik sangat tapi tu lar kadang-kadang mendatangkan kemarahan juga kepada aku. Tapi sikap aku pun pelik juga, kadang-kadang angin aku ni tak menetu........hurmmm....agaknya dye ni macam dah tak suka dengan aku pon.....Apapun aku tak mengharap sangat cinta dan kasihnya selepas ini........dye banyak tlong aku....JASAMU TETAP KU KENANG...Aku ni tak sesuai kut dengan dye....hurmmmm....malam niii aku tunggu punya tunggu tapi apa pun tak dak juga....sekadar cakap camtu saja.......dan akhir sekali esok jawapan dye mesti....ohhhhhh sowi tertidur.....ohhh sakit larrr....tapi aku tetap menunggu sehingga pagi.....sebahagian coretan hidup ku....huhhuuuhuu....hahahhah.....hehehhehehe...hurmmmmmmmmmmmm..................

KERANA DIA SEORANG UMI..........I LOVE UMI

'Tetapi tiada siapa pernah mengatakan umi mu cacat, dia tetap cantik, pada abah dia satu-satunya wanita paling cantik yang pernah abah temui...'
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“Nurse, boleh saya tengok bayi saya?” umi muda yang baru bersalin itu bersuara antara dengar dan tidak kepada seorang jururawat. Sambil tersenyum jururawat membawakan bayi yang masih merah itu. Si umi menyambut dengan senyum meleret. Dibuka selimut yang menutup wajah comel itu, ciumnya berkali-kali sebaik bayi tersebut berada di pangkuan.

Jururawat kemudian mengalihkan pandangannya ke luar tingkap. Tidak sanggup dia bertentang mata dengan si umi yang terperanjat melihat bayinya dilahirkan tanpa kedua-dua cuping telinga. Namun gamamnya cuma seketika. Dakapan dan ciuman silih berganti sehingga bayi yang sedang lena itu merengek. Doktor bagaimanapun mengesahkan pendengaran bayi itu normal, sesuatu yang cukup mengembirakan si umi.

Masa terus berlalu…

Pulang dari sekolah suatu tengahari, anak yang tiada cuping telinga itu yang kini telah memasuki alam persekolahan menangis memberitahu bagaimana dia ejek rakan-rakan. “Mereka kata saya cacat,” katanya kepada si umi.

Si umi menahan sebak. Dipujuknya si anak dengan pelbagai kata semangat. Si anak menerimanya dan dia muncul pelajar cemerlang dengan menyandang pelbagai jawatan di sekolah. Bagaimanapun tanpa cuping telinga, si anak tetap merasa rendah diri walaupun si umi terus memujuk Abah kanak-kanak itu bertemu doktor. “Saya yakin dapat melakukannya jika ada penderma,” kata pakar bedah. Bermulalah suatu pencarian bagi mencari penderma yang sanggup berkorban.

Setahun berlalu…

“Anakku, kita akan menemui doktor hujung minggu ini. Umi dan abah telah mendapatkan seorang penderma, tapi dia mahu dirinya dirahsiakan,” kata si abah. Pembedahan berjalan lancar dan akhirnya si anak muncul sebagai manusia baru, kacak serta bijak. Pelajarannya tambah cemerlang dan rasa rendah diri yang kerap dialaminya hilang.

Rakan-rakan memuji kecantikan parasnya. Si anak cukup seronok, bagaimanapun dia tidak mengabaikan pelajaran. Pada usianya lewat 20-an, si anak menjawat jawatan tinggi dalam bidang diplomatik.

“Sebelum saya berangkat keluar negara, saya ingin tahu siapakah penderma telinga ini, saya ingin membalas jasanya,” kata si anak berkali-kali.”Tak mungkin,” balas si abah. “Perjanjian antara abah dengan penderma itu masih berjalan. Tunggulah, masanya akan tiba.”

“Bila?” tanya si anak.

“Akan tiba masanya anakku,” balas si abah sambil uminya mengangguk-angguk. Keadaan terus kekal menjadi rahsia bertahun-tahun lamanya.

Hari yang ditunggu tiba akhirnya. Ketika si anak berdiri di sisi keranda uminya, perlahan-lahan si abah menyelak rambut uminya yang kaku.

Gelap seketika pandangan si anak apabila melihat kedua-dua cuping telinga uminya tiada.

“Umi mu tidak pernah memotong pendek rambutnya,” si abah berbisik ke telinga anaknya. “Tetapi tiada siapa pernah mengatakan umi mu cacat, dia tetap cantik, pada abah dia satu-satunya wanita paling cantik yang pernah abah temui. Tak percaya… tanyalah pada sesiapa pun kenalannya.”

Si anak kaku..

SAFETY

No Safety-Safety, what-so-ever... When SURVIVAL is the name of the game!

 A back breaking effort

Follow what I said, do not follow what I did...

In the event of an emergency brake, please hold each other.

HR : INDUSTRIAL RELATION

Tell- tale sign of malcontent

  Sun Tzu says
"When troops are seen whispering amongst them selves in small groups, the general has lost the confidence of his men.


If you bother to practise "management by wandering about" at your workplace, you may at times come across small clusters of employees gathering and whispering amongst them selves. This is often a tell- tale sign of malcontent brewing amongst the staff.

You should not ignore such signs but ought to quickly tap those informal leaders to find out more. The employees could either be unhappy with some policies that the management had introduced or simply frustrated  with their supervisor. At times, their grievance may be real in that the policies are unsound or their supervisor may be the culprit.

In, either case, to be forewarned is good since you will be able to prevent the malcontent from escalating into something more serious like strike or go - slow,  etc.                                              

MALAYSIAN CULTURE

MALAY WEDDING

A Malay wedding is usually performed when either one or both spouses are Malay. Malaysian law defines a Malay person as a Muslim. The traditional wedding ceremony is in two parts. The first part is the akad nikah (marriage contract), which is the legal and religious part of the wedding. The second part is the bersanding (enthronement), which is a family celebration. It is usual for the two parts to be celebrated over two days. However, it is becoming common for there to be a gap between the parts of the wedding, during which the couple are legally married, but saving up for an elaborate bersanding. In cases where the couple have family spread around the world, a number of bersanding may be held in different countries to allow everyone to wish the couple well.

ADAT MERISIK

The adat merisik (asking ceremony, or more literally 'spying custom') is the traditional Malay system for arranging marriages. When it is time for a young man to get married, his family will look around to identify a number of potential brides. Nowadays, the man might suggest to his family who he would like them to consider, and it may be that a romantic link already exists between the man and woman. Having decided upon one particular woman, the merisik, or investigation process, takes place.

For this ceremony one or more representatives (wakil) of the man's family pay a friendly visit to the family of the woman whom they have in mind as his potential bride. The visit is purely for the purpose of further investigation, and it gives the visitors the chance to see the woman. A hint will be given to her parents regarding the purpose of the visit, and their reaction will be assessed. The woman's parents may also give the visitors some idea as to whether or not their daughter would be interested in the match. The merisik does not constitute a formal proposal. Following the visit both sides can begin to think more seriously about the possibility or otherwise of a marriage. It is possible that no progress may take place, and the man's parents or representatives will then look for another possible bride.

                                                                      ADAT BERTUNANG

The adat bertunang (engagement custom) is normally held at the bride's home

                                                          

                                                                          AKAD NIKAH

  

 A Malay wedding proper begins with the akad nikah (marriage contract) ceremony. The groom signs the marriage contract and agrees to provide the bride with a mas kahwin (mahar,literally 'marriage gold' in form of money or goods or anything as requested by the bride).It is opposite to dowry where the mas kahwin is paid by the groom to the bride. The mas khawin is a symbol to show that the men is willing and are prepared to build a family with the lady he chose to get married to. The contract signing is done before a religious official and is accompanied by prayer.

If the bersanding is to take place the next day, the couple's hands are dyed with henna during the berinai besar (great henna-ing) ceremony. The bride's hair is also trimmed, eyebrows shaped and make-up applied by a beautician, known as the mak andam. Then the bride puts on her tudung (hijab or headscarf) to cover their hair and a selendang, or embroidered and beaded shawl over that. A crown is also placed on top of the shawl. If the bersanding does not take place on the day following the nikah, these preparation customs are delayed until the bersanding.


                                                                     BERSANDING
                                                               

The bersanding (enthronement) ceremony begins with the groom's procession with friends, relatives, musicians and people waving bunga manggar (palm blossom) to meet the bride. Often various good-humoured attempts are made to waylay or stop the groom from getting to the bride. The main part of the bersanding involves the seating of the bridal couple on a dais and sprinkling them with yellow rice and scented water by family members, relatives and guests as a sign of blessing. Each guest will receive a bunga telur (egg flower), a decorated egg with a fabric flower, as a sign of fertility. The couple are considered royalty for the day, and so various royal customs are performed for them, including musicians playing court music and 'bodyguards' performing a display of pencak silat (traditional Malay martial arts).

                                                                  

                                                              INDIAN WEDDING 

                                                                     

Indian weddings are very bright events, filled with ritual and celebration, that continue for several days. They are generally not small affairs, with anywhere between 100 to 10,000 people attending. Oftentimes it is possible that many of the attendees are unknown to the bride and groom themselves. Though most Indian marriages are arranged, some couples in urban areas have what are known as "love marriages", where the partners decide to marry each other without family involvement or assistance. The traditional Indian wedding is more about two families being brought together socially, with much less emphasis on the individuals involved.

Many of the wedding customs are common among Hindus, Jains, Sikhs and even Muslims. They are a combination of local, religious and family traditions.

Wedding traditions vary across religion, caste, ethnicity, language, region, etc. Traditional Indian weddings are generally structured into pre-wedding ceremonies, ,wedding day ceremonies (consisting of the Baraat, the Varmala and the Phere), and the Vidaai.

                                                            KANYADAAN

                                                             

During kanyadaan, the bride’s parents give their daughter away in marriage. The groom makes three promises – to be just (dharma), earn sufficiently to support his family, (artha) and love his wife (kama). He repeats these vows thrice in the presence of Agni (the sacred fire) and all who are gathered there.

                                                              BARIKSHA

                                                     

                                                                 

 Bariksha is when the bride's parents have informally shown intentions that they want a particular groom, and the groom and his family have agreed. Retracting at the end of this stage is frowned upon but is acceptable. Once the wedding has been decided on by both sides, the bride's family goes and does Badcheka/ Bariksha of the groom. This is when the bride's father and brothers go to the groom's side with sweets (including a coconut) and some pooja items like rice and turmeric. This ceremony is a token gesture to confirm the alliance and signifies that the groom is now "taken" and can no longer look for other prospective brides.

                                                                               TILAK

Tilak involves the bride's parents traveling to the groom's family home to formalise the relationship. A large feast is organised by the groom's family to celebrate this occasion. Only a nominal number of members of the bride's family are present (usually only very close relatives, often in tens of numbers). Typically, the female marriage proposal is very rare.

                                                     

                                                                   BYAHA HAATH

Byaha Haath: This ceremony signifies the purifying of the mind, body and soul of bride and groom. This daytime ceremony prepares both of them for the nuptials. 'Uptan' is a mixed paste of sandalwood, turmeric and rose water which is applied by seven unmarried female members of the families to the faces, hands and feet of the bride and groom. After this ceremony the bride and the groom are not allowed to step outside the house before the actual wedding.

                                                    

                                                                 CHINESE WEDDING

Chinese Wedding Customs & Rituals

In Chinese legend, the fatherly God-in-the-moonlight ties a red string around the ankles of the man and woman who are supposed to be husband and wife someday.  Thus, no matter how far apart they are, they will eventually get married.

                                                             PROPOSAL & BETROTHAL

Two families pick an auspicious date as the Betrothal Day.  This is a formal meeting between the parents of the perspective bride and groom. The groom's family presents various proposal gifts that represents fertility and prosperity in Chinese Culture, which is also known as "Grand Gift".  Thus, the two are considered officially engaged. 

                                                     WEDDING DAY CEREMONY

On the day of the wedding, two families performs "hair dressing" ritual and "capping" ritual for the bride and groom respectively. Then the groom sets out to the bride's home, and he will inevitably be blocked at her door by her friends, and the bridesmaids will play door game with the groom and his attendants.  The bride and groom will then leave her home and proceed to meet the groom's parents for Tea Ceremony.  The wedding date ceremony ends with a feast which features elaborate Chinese wedding food.

                                                           PRE - WEDDING RITUAL

After the betrothal  meeting, both families will make announcement to their relatives and friends by sending out  "Double Happiness Cakes" along with invitations.  The bride's family then prepares dowry and give a list of the dowries to the groom's family. The groom's family performs "setting bridal bed" ritual...  The groom's family decorates the bridal house for the wedding, while the bride's family prepares household accessories, mostly bedding and dining necessities, for the new home. 

WEDDING NIGHT RITUAL

The night of the wedding, the bridal room will lit dragon and phoenix candle to drive away the evil spirit, the newlyweds will drink wine from two cups tied together with a red string, arms crossed from each other. This is the formal wedding vow in Chinese culture. Then the bride will be offered dumplings that's boiled half-raw.  The pronunciation of "raw" is the same as giving birth to children, a indication of family prosperity.

                                                                                                         

HR : TRAINING AND DEVELOPMENT

You need not have to bear the cost all by yourself.

Sun Tzu Says:
"They carry war materials from the homeland but forage on the enemy.... Hence, the wise general sees to it that his troops feed on the enemy..."

In countries like Singapore, the government has established bodies like the Skills Development Fund to help subsidize employers to accelerate the upgrading of skills in support of the economic restructuring.

Hence, if you bother to find out, you may find opportunities to apply for subsidies to offset your T&D costs.

HR : COMPENSATION

Quality life is important today

Sun Tzu says:
"Give attention to the well being of your men; do not exhaust them unnecessarily. keep their spirit  united; conserve their energy."

Today's employees are no longer as dumb (or desperate) like those of my time. Yes, i was quite dumb those day because i would exhaust my self, working days and nights, sometimes six or seven days a week, until i suffered burnout as a result.

The catchword among job seekers today is "quality life by week" with opportunities for fun, development and career advancement. Companies like Motorola have shown their awareness of this trend, because in one of its job advertisement, Motorola declared: "Motorola says weekends are for families and friends too - yes, at Motorola, we believe that weekends are precious to you. So we strongly encourage you to spend your quality weekends with your family and friends. It's a balance between working life and family life which you will surely appreciate."

So you can forget about the image of the super - executive who works at his laptop while being chauffeured from office to airport, and then in flight, runs though air ports, rushes through three meetings, takes hundreds of calls and sees hundreds of people around the clock. No rest, no break for meals. Gee, who are you kidding?

Besides a five day work week, also consider giving more annual leave and how about remembering your staff's birthdays and letting them off on such days ? Your initiative will work wonders in motivating them.

HR : PERFORMANCE APPRAISAL

Try bottom-up appraisal as well.


Sun Tzu says,
"Therefore, when laying your plans, compare the following elements and appraise them carefully: Which ruler possesses the Moral Law; whose commander is the most capable... which army is stronger; which has better trained officers and men...?


Although it is common in most firms to conduct formal appraisals of employees' performance from time to time to determine if they are doing their job well, not many managers realize that informal appraisal is best. Yes, there is really no need for formal appraisals if you run informal ones constantly.


But if you have to do the once a year or even twice-a-year exercise just to assuage your conscience, why run a bottom- up appraisal as well? By this, I mean asking your immediate subordinates to appraise you just as you would appraise them. It is a good way to find out what they really think of you. But of course, you must first convince them speak up without fear of retaliation on you part.


I have recently come across one man who had taken it one step further.  Beside getting his managers to rate him, Seet Cher Hung who heads Phoenix Contact (SEA) Pte. Ltd, also gets his staff to rate one and other. Although he wouldn't know who rates him since the results are handed to another manager for tabulation, he feels the system reinforces his appraisal of his people.

HR : SELECTION

Don't Prejudge a person

Sun Tzu Says:
"A wise general considers both the advantages and disadvantages opened to him. When considering the advantages, he makes his plan feasible; when considering the disadvantages, he finds ways to extricate himself from the difficulties."

There is no such thing as a perfect person. Everyone comes with fair share of strengths and weaknesses. It is thus important not to prejudge a candidate. what matters would be how their strengths could be put to good use.

I would normally settle for her person who is available and whom i think could do the job well and have attributes like positive attitude, cheerfulness and commitment.

Some HR practitioners and bosses tend to be unduly obsessed with academic qualifications. Most tend to pass over a candidate for not having the right qualification though i once came across a man who dropped me because he resented my MBA with distinction. I learned about his resentment later because he told his colleague who happened to know me.

If you tend to begrudge candidates without the right qualifications, you should learn from the late Japanese industrialist, Matsushita Konosuke, who preferred to hire those with the right attitudes than those with the right qualifications. As he put it, he could always train the person with the right attitude instead of the other way around.

HR PLANNING : Responsibility in not overhiring

Many people, including seasoned HR practitioners, have erroneously thought of HR planning as simply a process of continuous head counts, leading to periodic redundancy and recruitment exercises.As you scan the environment, seeking information about the demand and supply of labor now and in future, you are actually shouldering a terrible responsibility. I said terrible because a misjudgment on your part could either cause losses for your organization or many colleagues to lose their jobs.Sadly,many managers have this tendency to hire indiscriminately, especially when their business is doing well.But should the economy take a turn for the worse, they would start cutting wages and then firing workers without compunction. That would be a most irresponsible act since everyone would be left so demoralized that they could no longer work with any enthusiasm. I recently admonished one CEO who was "restructuring" the polite term for depriving people of their jobs in his company.No, I have nothing against retrenching people whose jobs have become redundant. What I am against is their being hired without much planning in the first place because I remembered having had cautioned that CEO two years ago when he went on a hiring spree.

Seek to Create "Heaven" of the Workplace

Sun Tzu says:
    "By Heaven, I mean the
       working of natural forces; 
       the effects of winter`s cold 
       and summer`s heat and the 
       conduct of military
       operations according to the 
       seasons."


Rather than confining ourselves to physical climate- winter`s cold and summer`s heat- let us consider the climate at our workplace.


Ask yourself whether the climate at your workplaces is warm, cohesive and happy as employees greet each other cheerfully and go out of their way to help one another without being asked. or is the climate cold, fragmented and gloomy where staff couldn`t care less for another? or worse, they stab each other`s back !


Likewise, consider the physical conditions, like the air-conditioning, heating and lighting, whether the ambiance is pleasant or not. Or whether people are clean and tidy about their workplace environment.

   

HRM is the responsibility of every executive

The management of Human Resource in the workplace is not a concern exclusively for those executives whose name cards say "Human Resource Manager" or Human Resource Directors", or something like that. This book is, likewise, not intended for the said persons only.

Human Resource management is every executive`s responsibility, especially those in top management. So long as you have people reporting to you, and for whom you hold some responsibility, in a way, you are a human resources manager!

Astute bosses who know this fact have been able to exploit the competitive edge that comes from getting the right people and harnessing their capabilities to perform great deeds.

If you are not the boss who makes the crucial decision for the entire organization, but are specialist charged with the HR function, you owe it to you boss and your non-specialist colleagues to make them see how important it is start regarding people as the organization`s most important assets.

Don`t be like one HR Manager I used to know who would cater to his boss`s every whim and fancy, even though it went against the core of HR practices.

                 

HANDBALL UUM

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i love my friend....

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i love handball.....really hope and my ambition is to become a handball coach for the future. Experiences have enabled me to become a coach. In the game of handball, the attitude of cooperation is very important in achieving success.